”The Perfect Vagina”

Well, well, well! I never imagined myself posting such a message on my blog, but here goes for all the vaginas in the world!

I never actually felt that my personal bits were problematic; however, as a woman, I have had my share of concerns about my physical appearance. To be completely truthful, I have considered going under the knife to ”fix” (things like my breasts) when I was younger and I know that I’m not the only woman who has ever felt like this. Would I do it today? I don’t know. I think I’m at a different emotional place.  I have, however, met girls and women who felt so self-conscious about their looks that they would be ready to go to extreme lengths and to do virtually anything to fix their ”problems”.


We live in such a superficial society, how could we – as modern women – not be so  critical when it comes to our bodies? Girls today are more hypersexualized than ever… Sex is everywhere… Porn is everywhere. Our bodies aren’t ours anymore; they seem to have become public property that can be scrutinized and judged freely. Perhaps if I had been born into a younger generation, I might not feel as self-confident as I do now. Sure, girls were hypersexualized before, but with mass media and the internet, I’ll take a leap and say that girls probably feel worse about themselves today than they every have. I certainly still have a few self-conscious feelings about myself and I admit that I don’t wholely accept myself as I am… How could I, though, when I am bombarded with images of ‘perfection’ everywhere I go?

So… how have I come to think and talk about vaginas today, you may ask? This afternoon, I decided to look for some interesting documentaries online. I found a website called ”Documentary Heaven”.. It sounded like just what I needed, so I clicked on the link and started browsing a few documentaries and reading descriptions. I watched one about the second world war (I’m actually quite the history buff) and then I stumbled upon ”The Perfect Vagina”…

I thought to myself: ”Why not!??” So I clicked on it and I’m glad I did.
According to recent statistics gathered for the documentary, vaginoplasty is one of the fastest growing cosmetic procedures. I could go on about this, but the documentary speaks for itself.

At the end of the day, we have a lot of work to do when it comes to social issues. Would a woman’s self-worth and positive body image be considered a social issue? I believe so. So much is at stake and entire generations are affected by our lack of self-worth… A healthy sense of self is extremely important for girls and women of any age (Well, for everyone, really…). I thought I would share this – as graphic as it sometimes is – because we need to hear about this and we need to become more aware of issues such as this one no matter how ‘taboo’ it may be considered.

(Just for fun: Try to have an honest conversation about vaginas in public – or with friends – to see how embarassing it might be. If you’re not embarassed, I’m sure a good amount of others surrounding you would be. Just making a point… 😀 )

Here’s an incredbly honest look at a disturbing trend. The documentary is a little under 1h long. I sincerely hope you will take the time to watch it and I also hope that you will appreciate it.

(Note: In general, this is not suitable for children. If you – as a mother – feel that showing your daughter a documentary such as this one might be pertinent for her education, then I highly suggest that you watch it first to know what you are getting into.)

OH! and before I forget, the black parts are ‘commercials’, I think.. Just wait and the documentary will continue. 🙂

THE PERFECT VAGINA: http://documentaryheaven.com/the-perfect-vagina/


Any thoughts?


“It Gets Better Canada”: Stop the Bullying

A friend of mine shared this with me, and I thought I would share it with whomever might find a moment to read my blog. It’s really  important to me to spread love, awareness and compassion.

As much as we have made great strides in accepting the LGBT community and the wonderful human beings within it, we still have SO much work to do. It isn’t because someone might decide to “come out” that they are completely liberated. As we know from the series of suicides in recent months, life can sometimes become unbearable for someone who is perceived to deviate from the norm. Kids, teens and even adults continue to suffer at the hands of some painfuly hurtful people, groups and communities.

We must speak out against the bullying and the hateful acts committed against LGBT youth and adults. We must get together and fight for their fundamental human rights, as well as support and encourage them through their own processes and road to self-acceptance.


What Teachers Make (Taylor Mali)

I love this so much… I need to share it!

Teachers, parents, everyone… I encourage you to view this short video of Taylor Mali’s “What Teachers Make”.


“Tolerance”: A Word I Don’t Tolerate

It never fails. Every time I converse with someone about inequality in the world, they always use the word “tolerance” to express how we should go about relating to one another.

Now, I don’t disagree that we must learn about each other and learn to live amongst each other in peace and harmony; this is not what I’m saying. I take issue with the word itself.

Who ever wants to be “tolerated“?

The use of this word supposes that a bigger, more powerful, dominant group, makes an effort to tolerate a minority group or someone of “lesser” value, so to speak. The word itself, to me, embodies the very definition of inequality. When I hear the word “tolerance”, I hear: “Oh, look at us! How good we are to put up with you when we really don’t have to. We’re doing you a favour by making a conscious choice not to run you to the ground. You’re so lucky to have us “tolerate” you.”

O.K., I might push the envelope a little, but I think you get the point.

Sure! Some might argue that this is a question of semantics, and that it really is not a big deal, but it makes me cringe.

I tolerate you.” Can you hear the condescension in that?

Let’s not teach “tolerance”. Let’s teach acceptance.

There is a BIG difference between the two.

“I accept you.” – Now THAT is nice, isn’t it?


Procrastination & Me

I’m a dedicated student. I’m a dedicated student. I’m a dedicated student.

Maybe if I repeat it often enough I will remember to focus!


Mr. Procrastination has been haunting me quite a bit lately. I have an important midterm on Tuesday and I can’t seem to get it together. I can think of a dozen things I’d rather be doing than studying, at this very moment. In retrospect, I haven’t been too good to my brain these last few years; I’ve been kicking it into high-gear and I haven’t given it much rest. Maybe it’s rebelling.

I hear my bed calling my name. “Take a nap… you can wake up in an hour and keep studying.”

Liar! You soothe my need for sleep far too well and I can never only take “a nap” with you.”

I need more willpower to put myself back on track. I know I have to study. I’m dying to finish my degree. Sometimes – rarely – I think I’m crazy to want to do a Master’s. Gosh, this is not motivating! Maybe it’ll get better. It gets better right?

I know, I know. Once I complete my studies, I’ll look back on all of this hard work and I’ll laugh at the obscene number of nights I spent studying.

Guess who’s going to party her little heart out on graduation day!?